Saturday, November 27, 2010

Straight As An Arrow

For a child of gay parents, would it be hard for the parents to accept if their kid turns out to be straight? I don't know. But considering the fight the parents must have fought all their lives to assert their identity which is, to put it mildly, somewhat disturbing to our social fabric, they would understand if their kid turns out to be different from them. My friend argues that all of us are gays and it's the society and its established conventions that forces people to be straight. I know he said that for effect and didn't really mean what he said. However, this raised a pertinent point. Imagine a social structure where parents ( both hetro and homosexuals) took it for granted that their kids could and would turn out to be of any of these sexual orientations namely : gay, straight or bi-sexual( is there any other kind?). In this environment of acceptance for all sorts of sexual orientations and behaviors, would we still have a staggering majority of straights in our midst?

My friend and I agree that the belief that sex is primarily for reproduction may be a fallacy. Sex is primarily for recreation and fun. Reproduction is just a byproduct.

However, that doesn't answer my question. Is she gay or not? My friend, who likes wuthering heights and calls himself MCG, says she looks like a gay. He has the tendency to swing from sublime to ridiculous. How can someone look gay? what do gays look like? They have been stereotyped, since time immemorial, through mannerisms. But it is surely not possible to identify a gay just by looking at him/her. And hence my problem remains unresolved. I must admit that i wouldn't mind if she turns out to be a bi-sexual.

P.S: My thoughts on the eve of Queer pride parade. But i need to find the answer to my all important question. Its eating me from inside.

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